COURTESY – BEING NICE, ITS JUST THAT SIMPLE. IF ONLY IT WAS THAT EASY IN PRACTICE!
Courtesy – Being nice and respectful to others
Overview: The easiest way to show respect is through Courtesy. It starts with learning to communicate politely. This is easiest enforced with the use of good manners. When working with children, being the example, all the time, of those manners is very helpful. I remember my parents expecting me to show that courtesy while they were not the examples of it towards me. It takes being considerate and thoughtful of others as we speak to them, including our own family and children. A courteous person tends to be more well-liked and valued because of their polite and considerate nature. They tend to get along better with others and make more friends.
What we talk to students about…
Student: Being polite is awesome. Saying “Please” and “Thank you” is way cool and it shows you appreciate people when they help you. Always show good manners by saying “Yes sir” or “Yes ma’am” when speaking to adults, especially your parents and teachers. Holding the door for someone, allowing others to go first, or giving up your seat to an elderly person on a bus are all acts of courtesy. It shows you are considerate and thoughtful of others. The best part about being courteous is that people will see you in a good way and you will make more friends.
If you are not sure, try to imagine being in the situation you are dealing with, but from the point of view of the other person, this can help a lot in understanding the importance of showing courtesy, and it is the basis of compassion, when it could well be you on the other side of your behavior. We don’t like it when other people aren’t nice to us. However, if we continue the cycle by not being nice either, then we aren’t changing the world at all. If we can be a better example of courtesy, it might help others to show it more, as well as prevent many instances of trouble. Many times we find ourselves in trouble because we made a bad situation worse by throwing out our courtesy. Remember this is the front line in de-escalation.
Parent: Defining courtesy can be tough depending on the age of your kids. It seems like a simple concept until you are trying to help a child to understand it! That is why we use short definitions such as Courtesy – Being nice to others, and Respect – Treating others how we want to be treated.
The best way to teach these concepts is through being an example, and pointing out to them in an encouraging way every time you catch them showing good courtesy and respect. It gives them attention that they crave in a way that reinforces them to continue the type of behavior that they are praised or complimented for. So next time you do catch them making eye contact while you are talking, using their manners, or any other way of showing courtesy, make sure to smile and let them know your proud of them for doing so!
It also means doing so yourself. Asking your children politely, even if you have to bring out the stern voice, or telling them with manners, what you want them to do. The more constant reinforcement in an environment, the more they understand what is expected and why. We regularly have parents of students who want their students to continue their sir’s and ma’am’s at home more than they do. This is easiest done by addressing them in kind.
Why is it important?
Most people would agree our society lacks courtesy. People are often rude and disrespectful towards one another. Some would even say being polite and considerate are a lost art in our culture. Teaching your children to be courteous will help them stand out from their peers. They’ll be viewed as someone who is intelligent and respectful by their use of good manners. Teaching them to be considerate of others helps them to be unselfish. They will have better relationships and be valued by others.
Courtesy starts at home. It helps your children get along with family members better and provides a harmonious living environment. As parents, we try be the best example for your children to follow by being polite and considerate. It shows how much you appreciate and love them. Share with your children through various examples, how the benefits of being courteous can help them in their everyday lives. Such as de-escalation and avoiding bad situations, making friends, and many other benefits to making the world a happier place!
COURTESY POWER PHRASES & QUESTIONS
COURTESY GAMES – There are all sorts of ways to incorporate courtesy practice in games you play with your family! From promoting manners to promoting good sportsmanship. There are also games we play in class to incorporate courtesy every day! Here are a couple of popular ones:
INTRODUCTIONS FREEZE TAG: Freeze in a position when tagged, to unfreeze, someone shakes hands, makes eye contact and you both smile and say Hi, my name is ____.
COMPLIMENT KIHAPS: Every kihap(yell) throughout the day in class should be complimentary.
COURTESY POWER PHRASE’S:
I WILL BE NICE
I WILL BE HELPFUL
I WILL SMILE!
I WILL NOT YELL AT OTHERS, WHEN I GET MAD
I WILL THANK THOSE AROUND ME (because time is the most valuable thing a person can spend on another)
I WILL BE GRATEFUL
I WILL HELP OTHERS
I WILL HOLD THE DOOR FOR OTHERS
I WILL USE MY MANNERS How do you do that? Everyone say using our please sir and thank you sir! PLEASE SIR AND THANK YOU SIR
COURTESY POWER QUESTIONS:
What does courtesy mean? BE NICE
How can we show courtesy? Everyone say help sir (HELP SIR) say manners sir (MANNERS SIR) say listen sir (LISTEN SIR) say follow directions sir (FOLLOW DIRECTIONS SIR) – use all or mix and match, feel free to add your own
Is it nice to yell at someone in a mean way, even if they yell at you first? NO SIR
Does it show courtesy to grab something out of someone’s hand without asking? NO SIR
Does it show courtesy to ignore people when they talk to you? NO SIR
Does it show courtesy to not listen AND follow directions of your parent’s and/or bosses? NO SIR
Courtesy of Peaceful Warriors MA
3597 NW 32nd st.
Newcastle OK, 73065